All is Unfair in the Fairness World


My maid asked me to give her some advance and the reason- some boy was coming to see her daughter for marriage. Her look told me there was some problem so I inquired if they were looking for dowry but it turned out that the reason was her dark skin. They wanted a simple, homely, fair and beautiful girl.

Well who says marriages are made in heaven, they are made in melanin cells..
I asked her why she is so concerned about the dark skin. So many Bollywood actresses are dusky and beautiful. She was not convinced and quoted some fairness cream ad saying her daughter may face difficulties later in life as her hubby may go for other fair women and that will kill her.

I reluctantly gave her the money and she happily said that it will bring her five tubes of fairness cream and regular use will make her daughter look beautiful in just a fortnight. I was shocked for I had not imagined the money was for fairness creams.. I gave her good sounding and then wondered how much the fairness ad campaigns are psychologically affecting the young and old. There was no value for the talent and intelligence ..what counted was the fair skin.

The same night I saw a disgusting ad on the TV where in a music video cum ad where a dark skinned girl contemplates suicide when miraculously this fairness product appears out of no where and in an instance she is blanched and fulfills her dream as a famous singer, life becomes fair once more.

I wondered whether the I&B ministry knows about this alarming ad and plans to do something about it. Such a disgusting ad was all I could think.

The four letter F word (Fair) seems to be the leading factor in each and every sphere of life. All girls want to be Nicole Kidman and now even men seem to be following Shahrukh Khan’s fairness campaign dreaming of the rose petal filled bath tub and the beauties around him.

Fooled by the fairness ads people forget the difference between a good complexion and color and the whooping 800 crore market of skin lightning cream industry cashes on the stupidity of the masses. Fairness creams, lotions even soaps .. it is unbelievable to what length the market will go and unfortunately the society laps it up.

It is not just the uneducated who have a fixation for fair skin. A neighbor spent 2k to get a specialized skin lightning treatment in an upmarket saloon only to realize that the cost kept going up and in the process she now had additional dark circles. Buy one get one free. I said.

I love my dusky skin and hate people who are in continuous pursuit of trying to look fair. The classic Indian beauties are all dusky and I think it is the attitude that matters not the color of your skin.

Wonder when this racist attitude will end where the fair skin is the emblem of virtue and desire. A country where there is a hue and cry over every little thing and the I&B industry plans to ban the international fashion channels, does anyone care to put an end to what’s being promoted in the name of advertising.

Disgraceful is the only word that comes to my mind. I think people ought to appreciate the beauty within a person. Skin tone barely scratches the surface of what makes a person beautiful.


Read this on a forum so sharing it here

“People are like coffee. Real connoisseurs drink it straight up dark. They know the rich vibrant flavors and textures of a deep colored brew. Dark roasts like Colombian, French, Viennese, are simply exotic beauties that ensnare the senses. And ah espresso, a shot of real dark espresso will keep you running all day.

On the other hand wussies cannot handle the real thing. They need all that cream and sugar to lighten it up and sweeten the deal. Often to the point that you have to gag on that filthy saccharine laced solution with ugly pasty opulence. What do they know about true taste?

So the conclusion is that those who are obsessed with fairness are wussies. some Indians are wussies. Half the country does not appreciate coffee. Darned followers of tea drinking bootwearers!!!!”

Well what would one say to that ..I being a coffee addict myself.

this is my NaBloPoMo post for today

Remembrance : A Poem


 

Silently I watch my sunset dreams
dissolve in the serene, endless evening sky
The colors fade slowly
turning from shades of crimson
to melancholy Grey and finally black

The speechless valleys
fill with shadows of memories
Bare leafless trees add to the
stillness of my heart

I walk a lonely path
in a never ending wilderness

My spirit numb from the pain
and the hurt of frozen love

unkempt promises, shattered hopes
pierce my soul like fragments of
broken glass

my eyes fill with the
mist of your love
as I feel the sting
of your absence

moments slip without a trace
on an endless stretch
I, caged, bruised and lonely
walk upon the crushed hopes
beneath the skies of memories

Hoping against hope
that some day the sky once again
will be lit with a million splendid stars
And you my wandering moon will
light up my life again

(Image courtesy google)

This is my last NaBloPoMo post for the month of may.

Nanhi kali(the tender bud)I too want to blossom:Female Infanticide


girl-child1The village was slowly waking up to yet another day. The birds had left their nest in search of the early worm and one could hear the bells in the temple on a distant hillock.

Very few people were out at this time. Two figures emerged from behind a cluster of houses and started walking hurriedly towards the thick fields full of wheat crop ready to cut.

They had a mission. They were going to commit a crime no one will know of. A little bundle slept peacefully in the arms of one of them.
On reaching a specific spot near the canal, they unwrapped the bundle and mercilessly held the little baby girl’s head under water till the helpless infant stopped struggling to breath.

They pulled it out and quickly buried her in the previously selected makeshift grave. This was the second girl they had buried in three years.

washing their sinful body in the silent canal water, they returned and vanished behind the rows and rows of houses.

Nothing stirred, even the air became still, as it witnessed this gruesome act of murder.

“Female infanticide is the intentional killing of baby girls due to the preference for male babies and from the low value associated with the birth of females.”

What we are up against is a deeply ingrained patriarchal attitude to which even the medical profession and the women, who in spite of being the victims, unthinkingly subscribe to.

What is the future of womanhood in the land where the girl child is killed using every possible means by her own family especially her own father, brother and in many cases even mother. Many a times they are simply not allowed to be born.

According to a report by the United Nations Children’s Fund (UNICEF) up to 50 million girls and women are missing from India’ s population as a result of systematic gender discrimination in India. In most countries in the world, there are approximately 105 female births for every 100 males.

In India, there are less than 93 women for every 100 men in the population. The accepted reason for such a disparity is the practice of female infanticide in India.

Five million girls were eliminated between 1986 and 2001 because of fetal sex determination done by unethical medical professionals. The rate of extermination continues to increase after census 2001.

The practice is taking an alarming proportions and is shockingly common in even rural areas where people do not normally have access to sex determination facilities.

The family waits until the mother gives birth, and when they find out that a daughter is born, they go ahead and kill the baby by adopting various means such as strangling the baby, giving her poison, dumping her in a garbage bin, drowning her, burying her alive, or suffocating her with pillows etc.

Many a times female foeticide is the easy and simple way out for those male child hungry couples. Sometimes Barbaric methods are used to kill the fetus, endangering even the mother’s life.

What is disturbing is that female infanticide is not considered a big crime and rarely do culprits get convicted. Surprisingly, Sex-selective abortion are not always forced upon by husbands and in-laws , they are often done in consensus by the mother.. Since she is the one who has given birth to the unwanted female, it is her who must do away with it. She is forced to do so at times, and willingly does so at others since she herself desires a male child for various age old reasons rooted in our society.

A research was conducted to analyze the patterns of female foeticide and infanticide in China, India, and other countries in Southeast Asia. ( I searched the net to discover this and I am quoting )

The report concludes:

“( The magnitude of the phenomena of female foeticide and girl infanticide in India, China and other parts of Asia has reached a critical level creating a worldwide demographic imbalance with, in turn, drastic economic and social consequences. Over 100 million women are now missing in Asia which will result in a 12 to 15 percent excess of young men in the next twenty years.

[…]

It will take generations to change people’s mindset but the situation worldwide is so dramatic that we cannot afford to wait any longer. It is imperative that the International community calls on the governments and all actors responsible for this human and demographic tragedy to enact laws and take urgent measures to fight these violence and discrimination which, by denying the first basic right of all – the right to life – denies all other human rights. )”

What are the causes of 10,000,000 female infants killed in the past 20 years in India.

1. We need a son to carry our family name , to ensure continuity of our family line.

2. A son is needed to perform the last rites so our souls will attain peace.

3. A girl means expense as we will have to pay dowry and get her married.

4. We need a son to take care of us in old age while a daughter goes away to another house after marriage.

5. I need a son to complete my family.

When I look at these reasons, which mainly people give for wanting a male child, I wonder what kind of family line they want to continue, with what value system. won’t it be better if it finished then and there. and if every one thought the way they do where is the DIL going to come to carry forward the esteemed family name?

How many sons take care of their old parents in reality is a question to ponder. Look at the old age homes where mothers and fathers spend their last few years trying to hide the vacant dreams in their eyes.

Why not educate the girl child and make her self sufficient. It is known that you educate a girl child , you educated a family.

Why not oppose the dowry system and take law seriously. For it is one of the main reasons for female foeticide and infanticide. We should stop programming the girl child from the moment it is born to accept the so called Indian values, customs and rituals. Is it not needed to end the need for dowry itself instead of finding shortcut solutions to this evil practice?

We should stop the discrimination at home where the girl is underfed and her share is snatched to feed the good for nothing brother. The girls are advised and taught to stay indoors, learn to cook and wash, clean and sew for they have to go to another house after marriage.

She is not sent to school as education is considered a taboo for her and of no use to her as she is that unpaid slave who has to just birth children and slog for her husband and other members of the family.

She is snubbed and frowned upon if she dares to talk of her dreams, aspirations or in some cases abuse from the hands of family males.

This is our country where women are seen as images of Goddess.

What hypocrites we are?

We invoke our scripts and religion when it suits us and do what is convenient for us when it suits us.

We do rituals and offerings, go on pilgrimage to various Devi temples and abuse the woman of our house, kill the unborn daughter, ill treat the one who survives and sell her to some good for nothing hand pecked boy .

For their entire life most of the women live chained in the hollow bonds of being a daughter, sister, wife, mother and die every moment fulfilling the demands of that relationship.

Somewhere their essence, their identity is lost and they mutely take on the wrath of the hypocrite society.

I think the time has come for a collective uprising against the murder of the very essence of womanhood. To bring the change and to be the change.

This is a NaBloPoMo post for today

(image courtesy Google. All credits to rightful owners )

Breast Cancer : Stay Aware : Stay Positive: Stay Healthy


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The incidences of breast cancer in India are on the rise and is rapidly becoming the number one cancer in females pushing the cervical cancer to the second spot. The seriousness of the situation is apparent after going through recent data from Indian Council of Medical Research(ICMR).

It is reported that one in 22 women in India is likely to suffer from breast cancer during her lifetime, while the figure is definitely more in America with one in eight being a victim of this deadly cancer.

I had been reading about the role positive thinking plays in cutting down the risk of any dis-ease especially cancer. There have been instances where the cancer ha got completely cured just by will and positive attitude.

Every woman should do BSE (Breast self examination) to feel if there is some lump or swelling. If she finds one, she should undergo mammography. Every lump is not cancerous so there is no need to panic. Breast cancer detected on time can prevent morbidity and mortality. Pap smear and colostomy pick up the cancer of the cervix in very initial stages so now a days chemo is not required in all cases.

No one knows exactly why a normal breast cell becomes a cancerous one, and there is probably no single cause. It is thought, however, that breast cancer results from a combination of risk factors. These risk factors can be grouped into several categories:

Hereditary risk: It has long been known that women whose mothers or sisters had breast cancer have a higher risk of developing the disease themselves. Recently, it has been discovered that breast cancer can develop when a woman inherits a breast cancer susceptibility gene from one of her parents. However, it is important to realize that 85 – 90 percent of breast cancers and NOT hereditary, and that all women need to be screened for breast cancer, even if no one in their families have ever had the disease.

Hormonal risk factors: The female hormones estrogen and progesterone are involved in breast cancer formation. For example, it is known that women who start to menstruate at an early age, or who have a late menopause have a higher risk of breast cancer than women who do not. It is also known that women who take hormone replacement therapy after menopause have an increased risk of breast cancer.

Age: Breast cancer becomes much more common as women grown older.

Gender: Most breast cancer occurs in women, although about 12,000 cases of breast cancer occur in men in the United States each year.

Diet and Exercise: Studies have shown that women who exercise are less likely to develop breast cancer than sedentary women. Studies have also shown that women who gain weight after menopause have an increased risk of breast cancer compared to women who do not.

Early breast cancer usually does not cause pain. In fact, when it first develops, breast cancer may cause no symptoms at all. But as the cancer grows, it can cause these changes:

a lump or thickening in the breast or armpit

a change in the size or shape of the breast

discharge from the nipple

a change in the color or texture of the skin of the breast or areola (such as dimpling, puckering, or scaliness).

Any changes in the breast should be reported to a doctor without delay. Symptoms can be caused by cancer or by a number of less serious conditions. Early diagnosis is especially important for breast cancer because the disease responds best to treatment before it has spread. The earlier breast cancer is found and treated, the better a woman’s chance for complete recovery.

Visual inspection looks for changes in breast contour, new dimpling, nipple inversion, discharge, moles, puckering or persistent sores. Palpation is using the pads of the fingers to press down and feel the tissue around the breasts for any unusual lumps.

Mammography is an x-ray of the breast that reveals suspicious areas that are denser than normal breast tissue or have abnormal deposits of calcium. Mammography is an important screening test which can show a breast cancer long before it is big enough to be felt in the breast. Women over age 40 should undergo a mammogram every year in order to detect breast cancers when they are small and can be treated easily. .

Ultrasonography uses high frequency sound waves that enter the breast and bounce back. The pattern of their echoes produces a picture called a sonogram that detects whether the breast lump is solid (possibly cancerous) or filled with fluid (non-cancerous). An ultrasound is usually recommended to evaluate a palpable breast lump or an abnormality seen on a mammogram.

Amongst the thousands of genes we have, some genes make ‘protective proteins that act as brakes’ in a normal cell that is going thru the cell cycle. The cell is genetically primed to grow to a certain size and then divide to form two new cells, then grow again and then form two cells.

Normally cell division is required, during foetal development, to carry new born babies and children to adulthood, to regenerate injured tissues etc. but the body can’t have such divisions happening unchecked therefore it makes proteins that act as signals for the cell to stop dividing… sometimes a mutation occurs in the DNA of cells leading to NON production of the protecting protein in such cases the cells goes on dividing ultimately forming cancer.

Genes that make protective cell cycle ‘braking’ proteins are termed “tumor suppressor” genes. They have the above described function in normal cells and these genes are seen to be inactivated by mutation or silencing in tumors… hence termed tumor suppressors.

In breast cancer, BRCA tumor suppressor gene was identified a decade or more back. It is mutated and silenced in hereditary breast cancer patients who form a small percentage of all breast cancers patients. Very interesting finding of great use in diagnosis and prognosis but most breast cancers are non hereditary and BRCA gene was not associated with these common cancers.

When I read a book by Louise Hay called ‘You Can Heal Your Life I thought it was just another self help book but slowly as I practiced the methods of positive healing from there I gained so much confidence and learned to manage even the slightest pain.

Everyone should keep a copy of this valuable book.

The simple way of bringing change in my attitude brought tremendous change in my physical, mental and emotional health. Everyday I do these positive thinking exercises and see the result immediately.
During my days of illness, the stress levels had gone much beyond any limits of my thinking and this particular book truly healed me. Without medication and any medical help I came back to good health. Even now I manage daily dis- eases with it and try tokeep myself free of guilt, hurts, pent up emotions, regrets or any such negative emotions.

The power of positive thinking is one way to avoid the risk of any cancer especially breast cancer. Positive thinking is a mental attitude that anticipates happiness, success and favorable outcomes in every situation or action you do. The thoughts get registered in your subconscious mind and you start taking action to create favorable change.

A positive outlook can help you to cope better with stressful situations and can change your life for the better.

Connect with your inner

Connecting with your inner or listening to the instincts is one of the most common ways to develop positive thinking. Whenever any negative thoughts enter your mind, try to replace it with a constructive one. For example, “I won’t be able to do it” will be put forward as “I will do it”. Practice this regularly and you will soon be able to master your mind. Mind is a devious thing and one should never let it overpower us.

Meditation is the key

Meditation calms the mind and relaxes the body. Meditation gives inner strength, peace of mind, relaxation and a sense of bliss, which helps to think positively. So, regular meditation can lead to a calm inner and healthy mind, body and soul.

Always see the brighter side of life

Try to believe that everything happens for a reason and embrace the concept that something good will come out of every situation that momentarily seems bad. Always look on the bright side of life and it will work wonders for you.

Communication helps in a big way

Not saying the things you feel can give a sense of frustration, anxiety and anger, thus giving way to negative thoughts. Hence, communication is an important aspect of positive thinking.

Believe in yourself

Believe in yourself and your capabilities to become more confident. Make a positive commitment to yourself and to the people around you. Praise yourself and be enthusiastic. Love yourself and say it often that you are blessed by the positive forces around you. Staying connected with the universe around you helps in big way.

Tips to positive thinking

Be optimistic and expect favorable outcomes in every situation.

Cultivate the habit of reading inspiring books.

Find reasons to smile more often. It’s a great stress buster.

Try to use positive words, e.g. “I can”, “it will be done”, “it is possible” while thinking and talking.

Engage yourself in enjoyable recreational activities.

Interact with people who have a positive outlook in life.

Positive thinking needs consistent effort as you are creating a new habit. On the other hand, negative thoughts can rip your focus from your goal. There is no greater joy than living a healthy and positive life. So take charge of your mind and think positive. Remember, you are what you think.

This is my NaBloPoMo post for today.

Disclaimer : I am not a doctor or healer. All the information is gathered from articles on internet or books. I have just put them in my words for the benefit of my readers. Thank you. 

whatever there is, it is in this moment ..


We are here and it is now. Further than that all human knowledge is moonshine.
— H. L. Mencken

I love old Hindi Bollywood songs and this particular one sums up what I believe in.

Nothing exists beyond this moment. Most of us spend our lives lamenting the past or worrying about the future and in that process forget to live this moment.. the one moment when they are alive.

People seem to have great difficulty living in the moment. Many feel drained by living because they can’t let go of old hurts, anger, fears or their need to feel in control of situations or people.

We don’t want to let go, we don’t want to let off people so we carry the load on our shoulders. The way to enjoy living in the present is to surrender.

Until the past is surrendered – your energy will be invested there and not available to you. Until you give up looking into the future, fearing what it will bring, trying to control outcomes, believing you know what someone thinks about you and that you can control it, your energy will be invested there and unavailable in the present, where it’s really needed. It is only through surrender that you can regain this energy.

The Secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, not to worry about the future, nor to anticipate troubles, but to live the present moment wisely and earnestly.- Buddha

Each moment is a miracle , a mystery a joy of being alive. Unless we learn to live the moment we can never really fully be alive.
Be perceptive of what is around you. people , things anything that is around you. Observe closely. Every little thing matters, it brings life into that particular moment.

Pay attention to your senses- smell, sound, sight and taste. Become the music you are listening, the food you are eating, be the water you drink, the air you breath. Become one with the nature and the universe around you.

Live each moment as if it is the last one of your life. Savor it.

The cells of our body are dying, the neurons in our brain are decaying, even the expressions on our face are always changing, depending on our mood. What we call our basic character is only a “mindstream,” nothing more. Today we feel good because things are going well; tomorrow we feel the opposite. Where did that good feeling go?

What could be more unpredictable than our thoughts and emotions: Do you have any idea what you are going to think or feel next? The mind, in fact, is as empty, as impermanent, and as transient as a dream. Look at a thought: It comes, it stays, and it goes. The past is past, the future not yet risen, and even the present thought, as we experience it, becomes the past.

The only thing we really have is nowness, is now.

Sogyal Rinpoche

The day I learned this truth I started living. It is difficult to practice at time but worth giving a shot. I do it on regular basis and live. I am alive to my surroundings, to my inner for that particular moment.

It’s human nature to avoid unpleasant situations. However, I like Buddhist nun Pema Chödrön’s thoughts on the subject in her book When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times:

“…feelings like disappointment, embarrassment, irritation, resentment, anger, jealousy, and fear, instead of being bad news, are actually very clear moments that teach us where it is that we’re holding back. They teach us to perk up and lean in when we feel we’d rather collapse and back away. They’re like messengers that show us, with terrifying clarity, exactly where we’re stuck. This very moment is the perfect teacher, and, lucky for us, it’s with us wherever we are.”

So do not waste even a single moment of your life. Be the cookie that you are eating. Savor it now for you will run out of them.

Become unselfconsciousness, flow, breath, savor, accept, and embrace the unexpected in the here and now of your day. It’s what sets it apart from all the other days before it.

( some parts taken from “Six Steps to Living in the Moment” from an article by Jay Dixit in the November/December issue of Psychology Today)

ENJOY the song and become one with it.

Aage bhi jaane na tu, peechhe bhi jaane na tu
jo bhi hai, bas yahi ek pal hai
Aage bhi jaane na tu…

Anjaane saayo ka raaho mein dera hai
Andekhi baaho ne ham sabko ghera hai
Ye pal ujaala hai baaqi andhera hai
Ye pal gawaana na ye pal hi tera hai
Jeene waale soch le yahi waqt hai kar le puri aarzoo
Aage bhi …

Is pal ke jalwo ne mehfil sawaari hai
Is pal ki garmi ne dhadkan ubhaari hai
Is pal ke hone se duniya hamaari hai
Ye pal jo dekho to sadiyo pe bhaari hai
Jeene waale soch le yahi waqt hai kar le purii aarzoo
Aage bhi …

Is pal ke saaye mein apna thhikaana hai
Is pal ke aage hi har shae fasaana hai
Kal kisne dekha hai kal kisne jaana hai
Is pal se paayega jo tujhko paana hai
Jeene waale soch le yahi waqt hai kar le puri aarzoo
Aage bhi …

Song from WAQT sung by Asha Bhosle

NaBloPoMo Post for today

This too will pass ..A beautiful story(NaBloPoMo)


Today was a special day. A day to relax with kids , do grocery shopping buy new clothes for summer, just do all the things expet the usual cooking, cleaning and other household stuff which is so taxing and maha boring on summer days.

I found this beautiful story and read it out to kids. The two teenage brats listened with rapt attention which delighted me no end. May be they expected that I will lift the ban on the play station if they do what I say.

so here is the story for all of my friends here.. hope you will like it and ponder over it ..

happy reading and good night …

This too will pass

Once a King called upon all of his wise men and asked them,

“Is there a mantra or suggestion which works in every situation, in every circumstance, in every place and in every time, something which can help me when none of you is available to advise me? Tell me is there any mantra?”

All wise men got puzzled by King’s question. He wanted one answer for all questions?

Something that works everywhere, in every situation, in every joy, every sorrow, every defeat and every victory? They thought and thought.

After a lengthy discussion, an old man suggested something which appealed to all of them. They went to the king and gave him something written on paper. But the condition was that king was not to see it out of curiosity. Only in extreme danger, when the King finds himself alone and there seems to be no way, only then he’ll have to see it. The King put the papers under his Diamond ring.

After a few days, the neighbors attacked the Kingdom. It was a collective surprise attack of the King’s enemies. King and his army fought bravely but lost the battle. King had to flee on his horse. The enemies were following him. His horse took him far away in the Jungle. He could hear many troops of horses following him and the noise was coming closer and closer. Suddenly the King found himself standing at the end of the road – that road was not going anywhere. Underneath there was a rocky valley thousand feet deep.

If he jumped into it, he would be finished and he could not return because it was a small road. The sound of enemy’s horses was approaching fast. King became restless. There seemed to be no way.

Then suddenly he saw the Diamond in his ring shining in the sun, and he remembered the message hidden in the ring. He opened the diamond and read the message. The message was very small but very great.

The message was – “This too will pass.”

The King read it. Again read it. Suddenly something struck him- Yes! It too will pass. Only a few days ago, I was enjoying my kingdom. I was the mightiest of all the Kings. Yet today, the Kingdom and all his pleasure have gone. I am here trying to escape from enemies. However when those days of luxuries have gone, this day of danger too will pass. Calm come on his face.

He kept standing there. The place where he was standing was full of natural beauty. He had never known that such a beautiful place was also a part of his Kingdom. The revelation of the message had a great effect on him. He relaxed and forgot about those following him.

After a few minutes he realized that the noise of the horses and the enemy coming was receding. They moved into some other part of the mountains and were not on that path.
The King was very brave. He reorganized his army and fought again. He defeated the enemy and regained his lost empire. When he returned to his empire after victory, he was received with much fan fare at the door. The whole capital was rejoicing in the victory. Everyone was in a festive mood. Flowers were being thrown on the King from every house, from every corner. People were dancing and singing. For a moment King said to himself,” I am one of the bravest and greatest King. It is not easy to defeat Me.: With all the reception and celebration he saw an ego emerging in him.

Suddenly the Diamond of his ring flashed in the sunlight and reminded him of the message. He opened it and read it again: “This too will pass”

He became silent. His face went through a total change -from the egoist he moved to a state of utter humbleness. If this too is going to pass, it is not yours. The defeat was not yours, the victory is not yours. You are just a watcher. Everything passes by
We are witness of all this. We are the perceiver. Life comes and goes.
Happiness comes and goes. Sorrow comes and goes.

Now as you have read this story, just sit silently and evaluate your own life.. Think of the moments of joy and victory in your life. Think of the moment of Sorrow and defeat. Are they permanent? They all come and pass away. Life just passes away. There were friends in the past. They have gone.

There are friends today. They too will go. There will be new friends tomorrow. They too will go. There were enemies in the past. They have gone. There may be enemies in the present. They too will go. There will be new enemies tomorrow and they too will go. There is nothing permanent in this world. Every thing changes except the law of change.

Think over it from your own perspective. You have seen all the changes. You have survived all setbacks, all defeats and all sorrows. All have passed away. If there are problems in the present, they too will pass away. Nothing remains forever. Joy and sorrow are the two faces of the same coin. They both will pass away. Who are you in reality? Know your real face. Your face is not your true face. It will change with the time. However, there is something in you, which will not change. It will remain unchanged.

What is that unchangeable? It is nothing but your true self. You are just a witness of change.

Experience it; understand the spiritual dimension behind this.

The Book Bazaar (NaBloPoMo)


There are two types of people who live in the city of Delhi, those who have been to the Sunday book bazaar and those who have not. The later group is missing a wonderful experience that they will never get anywhere else.

As a teenager I often tagged along with my dad to the famous book lane of Daryaganj, Delhi and watched with awe the piles and piles of old books neatly stacked on the pavement.

We browsed through hundreds of books ranging from comics to travelogues, autobiographies, poetry anthology and a lot of other stuff.
Once the book fever took charge the sun, the heat, the cold, the rain nothing mattered.It was a feeling of being Alice in Wonderland.

Stretching nearly 1.5 km near Darya Ganj’s Golcha cinema, the bazaar is the only source of income for many of its 200 pavement booksellers.

Daryaganj is known for many old places like Carlton coffee shop, Moti Mahal restaurant, Aap ki Pasand tea parlor etc but this book bazzar is the most interesting part of this old Delhi area.

The market has been a Sunday feature in the area for the past three decades. Not all books here are second-hand. The sellers acquire books from different places. unclaimed books, old editions which the publishers can not sell, and even hot best sellers can be found at very low prices here. Many a times I have come across books which are not in print now and a treasure to have. These books come from owners who have moved abroad or just sold them due to some reason.

For those who love to read this book bazaar is the ultimate place to be.
Tens of thousands of old yellowing books ( and some glossy new ones too) on every subject like Technology, Medicine, Philosophy, Education, Cookery, Sports are heaped upon the pavement from Delhi Gate onwards all the way until one gets to the market in front of the Red Fort.

Some books are so old they crumble when you touch them; some have silverfish feasting on them, some are dogeared and marked or autographed at times. One can also find books presented to famous people like the prime ministers etc which are either first editions or sample editions. Historical and rare books can also be found in the heart of this book bazaar.

I used to freak out on the variety of books and we normally chose one area to explore at one time. The aroma of great food from the food stalls such as mouth watering delicious kebabs, biryani and other mutton and chicken dishes. and the musty smell of the old books is the perfect combo for a Sunday treat. Hundreds of stalls, with around 3000 books each can be dizzy.

Ships come from Mumbai and Gujarat with large book containers from the US and Canada, dealers buy there in bulk and the book stall owners get them from the dealers. So the network is great and provides a good amount of material for the bookworms.

You will be surprised to find leather bound editions of complete works of authors you could never dream to buy and those new hot series that you left in the swanky bookshop just because they did not fit in your budget.

Carry the bags with you and fill them with the choicest collection for your home library. You will see anyone from students to old people deeply engrossed in some book at some book stall or even small kids rummaging through the heaps searching for their comics and Hardy Boys series.

I was surprised to find autobiographies of musicians, world leaders, famous people, and actors at such low rate that it is just unbelievable.

When I thought of writing this post I had decided to go there and take some pictures too but maybe they can come later.

The place is a gold mine and the moment you sit your eyes on those books all the pain of traveling so far and the crowd and congestion, the heat and dust all vanishes in thin air.

Life begins at 7am every Sunday in this bazaar which is a paradise for book lovers all over Delhi and beyond.

Prices start from Rs. 50 and go up to 600- 700. A friend got Harry Potter series in just 300 bucks and all in good condition.

The book bazaar is the pride of Delhi and everyone who comes to the city must go there once. There have been talks of it’s shutting down due to security problems and what a loss it would be to all the book lovers.
I am glad that my parents made it possible for me to explore the magic of the old city including this fantastic haven for book lovers like me.

A New Challenge: NaBloPoMo


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I love challenges and April has been such a wonderful month full of poetry contests and so many other things.After the IndusLadies Mother’s day contest I saw this one and immediately decided to take on the write a blog a day challenge. Find the details here National Blog Posting Month

Will I be able to do it? I do not know but I start from today. A new beginning, a new post every day.

All those part of the challenge please add me on the site and those who want to participate click on the link above and have fun.

Wish me luck and leave your views as comments.
yay!!