I was never very fond of depiction of Rama in Ramayana. Not being a very religious person, I always looked at these characters as mythical and subject to criticism.
The way Rama has acquired a poster boy image is amazing. In spite of his weakness, faults and imperfections, he binds the whole Hindu community together and is a God Icon, unlike Krishana, who with all his flaws is more humane n easy to identify with. An ideal son, devoted loving brother, a perfect king, all these attributes hide his weaknesses.
I feel that there is a scope for the debating the morality of the actions of our Gods…especially the ideal Lord Rama.
Rejection of Sita and her agni pareeksha by Rama always is my favorite topic of debate. A cruel treatment of an ideal wife is the way I see it.
Why did a woman have to prove her fidelity?
A logical mind would ask why a man, who considered devotion towards his wife as Dharma, did all this injustice to her.
Sita on the other hand comes out to be a strong woman .Not a slaved wife to be pitied but a woman with tremendous emotional strength. With this supreme act of defiance, of walking into the fire, she puts the Maryada Purushotamma Rama to shame.
Rama comes out to be emotionally unreliable, unjust, mistrustful and jealous husband.
The rejection of Sita because some dumb ass of a subject raised finger on her character, put a permanent stigma on Rama’s name. I for one would never want my husband to be “Ram like.”
I feel Ravana on the other hand, though he lusted for women and all that, had great respect for them. He never violated Sita during her captivity days.
Bali’s killing was definitely a crime for a warrior hero; it was a cowardly and selfish act. It was clever politics too .Rama wanted Sugriv’s help for rescuing Sita and by helping him in killing Bali, he gains his confidence n respect. Sugriv decides to help Rama by providing his army. A crime which was thoroughly unprovoked, for Vali had no quarrel with Rama and he was unarmed. There are unconvincing series of justifications for his acts but he remains a stained Hero.
In my opinion Rama was no warrior either, the entire war with Ravana was a glorious attempt of the vanar sena (the monkey army), the intelligence of Hanuman. The actual warriors on the front were Lakshman, Sugriv and others.
Perhaps Rama was more of a villain than the actual villain himself, the demon Ravana.
This is my personal viewpoint and I do not intend to hurt any religious sentiments.